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Feel more authentic in your relationships.

Therapy that welcomes all parts of you.

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Aïda Retta (she/her) Registered Psychotherapist &
Registered Clinical Counsellor RCC, RP

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A space to feel seen, understood, and more fully yourself.

Maybe you’re used to being the dependable one, even when you’re overwhelmed. Or perhaps anxiety, low mood, self-doubt, or difficult relationships have left you feeling disconnected from yourself.

You may be carrying expectations from family, culture, or past relationships, while trying to figure out what you need and who you want to be. Whatever brings you here, you deserve a space where your whole experience matters.

Our struggles don’t happen in isolation.
The ways we cope often make sense in the context of our relationships, histories, identities, and the environments we’ve had to navigate.

At InRelation, therapy is a place to feel understood, explore these patterns with care, and begin experiencing new ways of relating to yourself and others. The goal isn’t just to understand what’s happening, but to make room for meaningful change.

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THE INRELATION APPROACH

Therapy that sees all of you.

You deserve therapy where you don't have to set parts of yourself aside. Your relationships, culture, lived experiences, and emotions all belong in the conversation. Here's what that can look like.

01 / CONNECTION

A relationship where you can be yourself

You don't have to figure everything out on your own. In a supportive therapeutic relationship, you can explore old patterns, express what you really feel, and discover new ways of relating to yourself and others.

02 / CONTEXT

All of your story matters

Your culture, identity, family expectations, and lived experiences shape how you move through the world. You deserve care that takes these experiences seriously, rather than treating your struggles in isolation.

03 / CHANGE

Change you can feel, not just understand

You might already know why you fall into familiar patterns, yet still find them hard to change. We work with your emotions as they arise, helping you experience new ways of responding, not just talk about them.

What I Help With

  • Guilt, self-doubt, & self-esteem
  • People-pleasing & boundary challenges
  • Codependency in relationships
  • Anxiety & attachment concerns
  • Depression & low mood
  • Relational trauma & abuse
  • Family & cultural expectations

When insight isn’t enough

Understanding why something happens doesn’t always make it easier to respond differently in the moments that matter most.

Real change often asks for more than understanding.

Even when you know you want to speak up, you might still quiet yourself to avoid conflict.

Even when the evidence suggests otherwise, you might still struggle with the feeling that you are not quite good enough.

Even when everything in your body is saying no, you might still say yes.

These responses are often adaptations: ways of coping that developed in response to relationships, cultural expectations, and environments you had to navigate. Over time, they can become deeply ingrained in both mind and body, or nervous system. This is why insight alone often cannot fully shift these kinds of patterns.

In other words, knowing what we should do doesn't always make it easier to actually do it.

Rather than working only at the level of insight, therapy offers a space to explore what you feel in the moment, try out new ways of showing up, and receive support through the discomfort and vulnerability that can come with change.

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Ready to get started?
It’s a straightforward process:

  1. You can schedule a free, no-obligation consultation here.

  2. We get to know each other during the consultation. You share what’s been going on for you, and I’ll share more about me and my approach. We’ll take the time to make sure I’m the right fit before we move forward.

  3. Start the therapy process by completing an intake form and talking through your goals.

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Frequently Asked Questions

How does therapy work? +
Therapy is a collaborative process. We’ll slow things down enough to understand what’s happening beneath the surface such as patterns in relationships, nervous system responses, and the strategies you’ve had to rely on to get through. From there, we focus on creating new experiences that feel more grounding, self-trusting, and aligned with the way you want to live and relate.
How often should I come to therapy? +
Much like any meaningful change process, therapy benefits from regularity. You can think of it like learning a new instrument or language. If you practice once and then stop for a few weeks, it’s harder to build skill, confidence, and momentum. The same is true in therapy. Meeting weekly helps us build continuity, understand your patterns more clearly, and create the consistency needed for meaningful change to take hold. It also allows us to deepen the work rather than repeatedly “restarting” each time we meet. Over time, we can transition to biweekly sessions or occasional check-ins as things stabilize and your needs evolve.
How many sessions does it take to see change? +
It depends on what you’re coming in with and what “change” means for you. Some people notice relief or clarity within the first few sessions. Deeper patterns like anxiety loops, people-pleasing, shutdown, or self-criticism usually shift more gradually as safety and trust build. We’ll check in regularly so therapy stays practical and focused.
What does the consultation process look like? +
A consult is a short, low-pressure call where we get a feel for whether we’re a good fit. You can share what’s been going on, what you’ve tried so far, and what you’re hoping will be different. I’ll ask a few thoughtful questions, explain how I work, and you’ll leave with a clear sense of next steps, whether that’s booking a first session with me or getting pointed toward another option that fits better.
What are your fees? +
My fee is $160 per 60-minute session. If you have extended benefits, you may be able to submit receipts for reimbursement (coverage varies by plan).
Are therapy sessions covered by insurance or extended benefits plans? +
Psychotherapy/counselling is often covered by extended benefits, but every plan is different. The simplest step is to contact your provider (or check your benefits portal) and ask what’s covered for psychotherapy or counselling, whether a Registered Psychotherapist or Registered Clinical Counsellor is eligible, and what your yearly limit is. If you’re unsure what to ask, I’m happy to help you figure out the right questions.